Relationships In This Time Of Awakening


Photo by Leah Schroeder

Photo by Leah Schroeder

Relationships at the best of times can have their challenges to navigate whether they are with family, friends or the more intimate relationship with one’s partner.

Maybe it’s just me, but it feels the closer I am with people, the more intense relationship dynamics are at this time. As more light flows in, and shadows are exposed, the more things come to the surface to be healed. Generally, people seem more sensitive, including myself, and sometimes that can create friction or resistance and some challenging circumstances to work through.

I have experienced on occasion, the use, or choice, of words being challenged or misunderstood. Everyone has a different understanding of the words or phrases we use. This can at times lead to misunderstanding. This is particularly true via social media. When we speak directly with each other, via phone or face to face, we hear the tone of voice or see into the others eyes and have a greater understanding of the heart, or intent behind the words used.

I am human. I have emotion. Sometimes things anger or frustrate me. Other times I feel great joy and passion for the beauty of life around me. Sometimes I feel pain and sadness. Other times I feel in a place of peace and calm. I often feel what others around me feel and sometimes get caught up in their energy. If I see a situation where it appears that someone is being treated unfairly or is misunderstood, I will often stand up for them. My truest nature is gentleness and kindness and I do my best to allow that to be what radiates out from me and what others see in me. More and more I am learning through all those different emotions, to feel love and gratitude for myself and allow that to fill me up and flow out from me.

The expression of these emotions is also part of my awakening. For most of my life I have suppressed my feelings. Having the courage to express myself, even if the person I am sharing my feelings with may not receive this well, is important. Their response or reaction may be a reflection of where they are at in their own process. I do my best to do this from a place of love. I am still figuring out who in my life it is safe to do that with and who it is not. It is most important that I speak my own truth. I strive to always live from my heart. My intentions are always good.

I believe the strongest relationships are those that will stand by you even when things get a little messy. They are the people that will be the most honest with you and will challenge you, and yet be there for you when you need it most, and love you no matter what. They are the people that you feel safest with to fully express all of who you are – your whole, messy, awakening self. That is the kind of person I strive to be. Those are the people I choose to surround myself with.

Some relationships will survive this wild ride we are on, and become deeper, richer and stronger. Some will need to be released to make way for others to come in. It is not for us to judge when that happens, just to trust the process and know that it is all for the highest and best.

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Boundaries


Photo by Leah Schroeder

Photo by Leah Schroeder

A few conversations I have had in the last week or so challenged me to reflect on the whole idea of boundaries and how we view life happening around us.  We create boundaries to define property, or ownership.  This is mine and that’s yours.  This is my country, that’s your country; my yard, your yard, me, you.  It is an illusion of separation.

After a meditation recently, we talked about how when tragic events happen in the world, whether on a small or large scale, we have an opportunity to shift the energy of the experience by responding with love and compassion. Events in the world like 9/11 or major natural disasters like the 2010 earthquake in Haiti, are large scale examples where the response to these events have raised the energetic vibration of the entire planet.   I began to explore this concept on a more personal level.

Prior to this, a good friend expressed concern over a particular situation, and the potential for me to be hurt by another’s actions.  I am grateful for her care and the opportunity it gave me to reflect on this subject.  I know she will be reading this so I write this with the utmost love and respect.

Over the past few months I have had the opportunity to participate in a few Sacred Womyn Workshops.  I talk about the energy of our words and the impact the energy we hold in our body affects us and the world around us.  I talk about learning to live from a place of love and peace and the power of that to heal ourselves and the earth.

When I consider what it means to truly live from a place of love, with love there are no boundaries.  There is no separation.  Everything is a reflection of something within me, including whatever dynamics I experience with another person.  So, I can choose to put up walls to protect myself from those dynamics or I can hold an energy of love and peace.  My partner and I often talk about how in any given moment we can choose to respond to life with fear or love.

This doesn’t mean I should or need to engage in a relationship with someone that has harmed me in some way.  I can choose not to.  If I am holding that energy of love, I will attract situations and people that resonate on the same vibration I am at.  If what I have attracted doesn’t appear to be on the same vibration, is it possible I have attracted it because it is a reflection of some aspect of myself?  If I look at it as a shadow side of myself, I can bring it into harmony with other aspects of my being by shedding light on it and bringing in an energy of love and compassion.

At the same time, if an opportunity presents itself where I can engage in dialogue with someone that may have “hurt” me in some way or treated me badly or has differing beliefs from myself, I can choose to connect with this person from a place of love.  This creates a possibility for transformation for both me and the other person.

I have done a lot of work to break down the walls around my heart.  I am still a work in progress.  Being love and living from that place, requires me to keep my heart open.  It requires me to be vulnerable.  It requires me to be awake to possibility, to risk and to have faith.

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Four Women


Photo by Leah Schroeder

Photo by Leah Schroeder

There were four women sitting around a kitchen table.  In the centre was a candle holder, made of either pottery or stone, of four women sitting together around a fire (the candle). Around this table we listened to each other, and shared teachings, ceremony, and acknowledged our connection to each other.  We broke bread together.  We shared a common vision to bring women together for connection and healing.  We all understand that this is vital to healing the planet – bringing our world back into balance.

My heart and soul are singing.  I am filled with joy and deep gratitude.  Although I only see a short piece of the road in front of me, I feel clear that I am on the path that is my soul’s calling.  Some of the processes I have been through in the past few weeks reignited my passion and showed me what my heart already knew.

This is what it feels like when you fully commit to embracing that voice inside, and the calling of your soul.  All it takes is putting one foot in front of the other.  Pay attention.  Listen to your heart.  Know that you are worthy of allowing that spirit to shine for the whole world to see.  Discover your unique voice and don’t be afraid to share it with the world.

I am still learning this.  I am taking steps forward.  In this moment I feel fully engaged in and connected to this process.  I hold myself in this space knowing that it is where I am in most alignment with my soul’s path.  I feel it on every level of my being.

From this place of recognizing my own spirit through the eyes of the women I sit with, I call out to women around the world to come join the circle.  Let go of the old stories you carry on your back, the ones that weigh down your wings and prevent you from soaring.  Let go of the pain of the past that you hold onto with the illusion that we are separate.  It is crushing your spirit, but there is still a light inside you.  It wants to fill you up, shine for all to see and to be shared.  I feel your pain, as a part of my own body and spirit that is showing itself and asking to be healed.  This pain is felt through every layer of the planet and is coming to the surface to be healed.

It is time for us to come together to create a new reality, to write a new story.  This is the voice that is calling out from the depths of my soul. I hold out my hand to you and open my heart, in the recognition that we are one. Namaste.

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Lessons in Becoming Less Attached to ‘Things’.


I have always wanted to be surrounded by beauty. By beautiful things especially. I like interior design. I have always been attracted to rich ethnic prints and deep wall colours. I like each room in a house to have its own theme and ambiance. I have been craving a ‘place of my own’ for a long time. Since my late teens I have only ever lived in rented accommodation – but sometimes for years on end, during which time I accumulated a lot of things. I painted and decorated and bought and arranged. And more often than not took a deep sense of pride in my home. More recently, in the last house I lived in, I went through the dark night of my soul. I had been hating that house for a while, for various reasons. They do say the state of your house can be reflective of the state of your mind and in this case, I had fallen out with myself and given up on the beauty. Part of my healing was to clear the house of clutter and to fill it with love, my bedroom in this house especially became a sacred space for me, with my altar, my vision board, and my feng shuied love corner.  I also have a large collection of books and beautiful paintings which give me so much pleasure, and as an academic books are vital to my profession.

Six months ago however, I made the decision to give up this house and to move in with my parents for a temporary period. I got rid of so much stuff. It was epic. We must have made at least 20 visits to the local recycling and waste amenity. It was like a purging of everything I had accumulated. Of course I kept my paintings and books, and some key items of furniture. But really, myself and my two children moved into my parents with a van load between us. It was a huge exercise in down sizing.

I now find myself in a situation where I am between homes, between countries. I have a room and a desk and books and my computer, but I hardly know where a lot of my ‘things’ are and I have no house to call my own. I have no rooms, living rooms, bedrooms, to fill up, to decorate to invest in. This is coming. It’s in the pipeline. Indeed, two houses may be in the pipeline. In two very different countries, but they will both be my home.

While I am looking forward to nesting again, and filling my homes with beautiful things, these past six months have been a huge lesson in letting go of attachment to ‘things’. I have felt displaced and at sea on occasion, even mildly panicked that I am not grounded and rooted in a particular dwelling. But each time I try to root down to my sense of belonging to the earth, the planet, the universe, rather than a specific house or country even. I felt a huge sense of liberation when I left my long term house six months ago, I felt freer than ever. And at times I still do. It may sound like a cliché  but the world is my home and it’s more to do with the sun and the sea and the particular light on a particular evening, and the people I love, than a house, than any ‘thing’.

photo taken by Ellen

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The Merging of the Human and the Divine


What I am learning right now is: Being human is divinity itself.

I used to think, being ‘spiritual’ meant constant meditation, abstinence, perfection almost. No anger, no bad moods, no indulgence.

Being spiritual meant healthy diet, being calm and peaceful all the time. Supreme kindness, serenity. Exercise, alkaline diet. Reading spiritual books and literature.

I still believe all those things. But I am more inclined to also believe, we are human! The goddess herself is sexy, voluptuous, she may drink too much wine on occasion, she may swear and argue. She knows how to apologise. She is not ego centric. She is simply being. Like me.

Doing my best to learn and grow and be the best that I can be, and most importantly continuing to love myself, even when I fall.

photo by Josh Schultz

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Dr. Ellen Anne Burns is an actress, writer, mother, teacher, and student, not necessarily in that order. She was brought up in Belfast, Northern Ireland. She is a Doctor of Applied Theatre. She believes in a holistic spiritual practice, involving meditation, self love and discovery, learning and practicing forgiveness, gratitude and love every day. Ellen wishes to support and guide others on their own journey of self and love. She is a mentor on Gabrielle Bernstein’s-HerFuture.com and is thrilled to be one of the founding members of The Daily Sisterhood Blog. If you wish to contact Ellen please message her here, and she will respond as soon as she can.

Humility


Humility is a sore spot. It’s used as a reason to stay quiet when you know you are longing to speak. It’s used as an excuse to throw a dark blanket over that bright light in your heart.

Tony Robbins says that our deepest fear is that we aren’t good enough, and that means we won’t be loved. Marianne Williamson, on the other hand, famously said that “our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, [it] is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” I believe both of these trail back to the same source. If we aren’t good enough, we won’ t be loved. If we are too good, once again, we won’t be loved.

Why is that?

Where did we learn that it is a virtue to silence our magnificence?

I believe self-censorship and self-oppression breed themselves. When I censor myself, when I oppress my identity and stifle my light, I teach everyone around me that they have to do the same. This is transmitted largely from parent to child – one of the worst injuries a parent could do their child is censor their own truth, put themselves down. And how many do that – thinking they are being loving, putting their own needs aside entirely to support their family?

Yet they are really teaching their children that it isn’t safe to be authentic.

The beauty of this dynamic, however, is that when you commit to end your own censorship and oppression of your heart, your truth, your thoughts and feelings, opinions and emotions, you give everyone else around you permission to do the same. Your commitment to your authenticity provides a space for my authenticity to come forward, and my authenticity in turn inspires others to bring themselves forward as well.

This magic is igniting the core of our current shift. People are tuning in to themselves.

So, overcoming this fear on every level is what will usher in a new era. Does that mean we shouldn’t be humble? Of course not.

I believe humility, as a concept, is misunderstood by the majority of society. It is defined by dictionary.com as the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank, etc. This means we acknowledge our own existence as not superior to anyone else’s. But to interpret that as an invitation or order to “cut yourself down to size” is not only a grave wound to yourself, it is also offensive to the rest of the human race.

The bottom line is – to be humble, you must acknowledge that you aren’t superior to those around you. In its core, this means we need to recognise the magnificence in everyone around us. It does not mean we need to stifle our own beauty.

Shine on, and the world will shine with you.

Femme – The Movie


I just finished watching this film.  We are in a time of massive change.  I have often felt uncomfortable about conversations around matriarchy vs. patriarchy.  Really how I have come to understand a return to feminine power or a matriarchal society is a return to balance.

We are shifting into an era where the consciousness of humanity is that of connection and collaboration.  Living from the heart and acting from a place of love, honouring each other, caring for each other and for the earth is the key to change.

The film – Femme, talks about these concepts and honours women and men.  I believe getting this film out will create a huge wave towards encouraging humanity to come together to create positive change and to change the way we see our relationship to each other and the earth.

I encourage you to take the time to watch the film and share it with others. Click on the title below:

http://ykr.be/1g7w7wnzid

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Leah Schroeder is a Reiki Master and ThetaHealing® Practitioner, www.lifeforcehealingservices.ca and a Financial Representative. “I was born and raised in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. For most of my 47 years this has been and currently is the place I call home. I have been working in Financial Services for the past 16 years educating people about their finances, helping them restructure and reduce debt, invest for the future and properly protect their families. A strong sense that there is something more I am supposed to do in the world, a fascination with energy and a series of intuitive nudges has led me to begin practising Reiki and ThetaHealing®. I have a desire to learn and practise other healing modalities, as well as serve children and empower young women around the world. I am grateful for the opportunity to share my thoughts and stories with you.”