Relationships In This Time Of Awakening


Photo by Leah Schroeder

Photo by Leah Schroeder

Relationships at the best of times can have their challenges to navigate whether they are with family, friends or the more intimate relationship with one’s partner.

Maybe it’s just me, but it feels the closer I am with people, the more intense relationship dynamics are at this time. As more light flows in, and shadows are exposed, the more things come to the surface to be healed. Generally, people seem more sensitive, including myself, and sometimes that can create friction or resistance and some challenging circumstances to work through.

I have experienced on occasion, the use, or choice, of words being challenged or misunderstood. Everyone has a different understanding of the words or phrases we use. This can at times lead to misunderstanding. This is particularly true via social media. When we speak directly with each other, via phone or face to face, we hear the tone of voice or see into the others eyes and have a greater understanding of the heart, or intent behind the words used.

I am human. I have emotion. Sometimes things anger or frustrate me. Other times I feel great joy and passion for the beauty of life around me. Sometimes I feel pain and sadness. Other times I feel in a place of peace and calm. I often feel what others around me feel and sometimes get caught up in their energy. If I see a situation where it appears that someone is being treated unfairly or is misunderstood, I will often stand up for them. My truest nature is gentleness and kindness and I do my best to allow that to be what radiates out from me and what others see in me. More and more I am learning through all those different emotions, to feel love and gratitude for myself and allow that to fill me up and flow out from me.

The expression of these emotions is also part of my awakening. For most of my life I have suppressed my feelings. Having the courage to express myself, even if the person I am sharing my feelings with may not receive this well, is important. Their response or reaction may be a reflection of where they are at in their own process. I do my best to do this from a place of love. I am still figuring out who in my life it is safe to do that with and who it is not. It is most important that I speak my own truth. I strive to always live from my heart. My intentions are always good.

I believe the strongest relationships are those that will stand by you even when things get a little messy. They are the people that will be the most honest with you and will challenge you, and yet be there for you when you need it most, and love you no matter what. They are the people that you feel safest with to fully express all of who you are – your whole, messy, awakening self. That is the kind of person I strive to be. Those are the people I choose to surround myself with.

Some relationships will survive this wild ride we are on, and become deeper, richer and stronger. Some will need to be released to make way for others to come in. It is not for us to judge when that happens, just to trust the process and know that it is all for the highest and best.

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Faith


Photo by Leah Schroeder

Photo by Leah Schroeder

As I play in this in between space in my life, I pay attention to my thoughts and feelings and responses to the words and actions of others.  I am learning to trust my inner knowing.  I trust that wherever this path is leading me is in the highest and best. 

There are moments when I might question this and doubt creeps in.  I have been paying attention to what triggers those feelings.  There are moments when I feel I am in the middle of this pile of crap and it can be challenging to see beyond that.  There are moments when people ask questions of me about where I am at, or about choices I am making right now.  I become aware that the fear that I am feeling, is more a projection of their fears than my own, or possibly an indication of where my sense of self-worth is at the time.  There are moments when the words and actions of others around me don’t align with what I believe in my heart to be true.

Just as I write this I am listening to an interview with Dr. Wayne Dyer and he makes a comment about shifting the focus to my purpose, listening and getting the ego out of the way.  Lessons like this show up at the most perfect moments.  Every day I learn something new.  I learn to release the fears, doubts and reteach myself that I am worthy.  Every day I have experiences that teach me about faith.

Earlier this week, I had some errands to do around the city.  One stop was to a government office downtown.  I parked my vehicle in an underground parking lot.  After my business there was finished, I stopped at a pay station to pay the parking fee.  I had to put down my purse, travel mug, and a black folder that contained some personal confidential documents.  When I finished paying, I gathered up my things and proceeded to my car.  I had a gut feeling that I might have been forgetting something, but thought I had everything in my hands so I didn’t go back to the pay station to check.

My other errands were in other areas of the city.  When I got to what I thought was my last stop before going home, halfway across the city from the first stop, I realized the passenger door of my car was not locked.  Then I noticed that my black folder was not in my vehicle. At first I thought someone must have taken it from my car at my last stop, but then I retraced my steps in my mind to figure out where I might have left it.  I realized I must have left it by the pay station.  I contacted the building security.  As I was calling, the customer service office for that building called me to let me know the folder had been brought to them and was being held in their lost and found.  This was a lesson for me to trust my inner knowing.

I watched a beautiful movie this week called “Dragonfly”.  I have a strong connection to dragonflies as you may well know, so this film was suggested to my awhile back.  The message I received from this movie, again is to trust my inner knowing and to have faith.

Maybe, what I believe in my heart to be true will be something even better than what I can imagine at this point of my life.  I am continually being reminded to let go of attachment to a particular outcome.  I recently received a deck of Angel Cards.  For the last few days I have been repeatedly pulling a card that reads “Patience.  Your dreams are blooming more rapidly than you realize.  Still, they need nurturing and patience.”  It is helpful to be continually reminded of this because I do forget sometimes.

I have a strong sense that I am being supported and guided along this road I am travelling.   I am learning that everything serves some purpose even though it might not feel like it in the moment.  Things are being released and transformed to allow me to align more with my soul’s path.  When I allow space for meditation and to just be in the stillness of the moment, I find peace and love and a deep connection to All That Is, and a knowing that I am exactly where I am meant to be in this moment.   In Love and Gratitude, Namaste.

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Leah Schroeder is a Reiki Master and ThetaHealing® Practitioner, www.lifeforcehealingservices.ca and a Financial Representative. “I was born and raised in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. For most of my 47 years this has been and currently is the place I call home. I have been working in Financial Services for the past 16 years educating people about their finances, helping them restructure and reduce debt, invest for the future and properly protect their families. A strong sense that there is something more I am supposed to do in the world, a fascination with energy and a series of intuitive nudges has led me to begin practising Reiki and ThetaHealing®. I have a desire to learn and practise other healing modalities, as well as serve children and empower young women around the world. I am grateful for the opportunity to share my thoughts and stories with you.”

Lessons in Becoming Less Attached to ‘Things’.


I have always wanted to be surrounded by beauty. By beautiful things especially. I like interior design. I have always been attracted to rich ethnic prints and deep wall colours. I like each room in a house to have its own theme and ambiance. I have been craving a ‘place of my own’ for a long time. Since my late teens I have only ever lived in rented accommodation – but sometimes for years on end, during which time I accumulated a lot of things. I painted and decorated and bought and arranged. And more often than not took a deep sense of pride in my home. More recently, in the last house I lived in, I went through the dark night of my soul. I had been hating that house for a while, for various reasons. They do say the state of your house can be reflective of the state of your mind and in this case, I had fallen out with myself and given up on the beauty. Part of my healing was to clear the house of clutter and to fill it with love, my bedroom in this house especially became a sacred space for me, with my altar, my vision board, and my feng shuied love corner.  I also have a large collection of books and beautiful paintings which give me so much pleasure, and as an academic books are vital to my profession.

Six months ago however, I made the decision to give up this house and to move in with my parents for a temporary period. I got rid of so much stuff. It was epic. We must have made at least 20 visits to the local recycling and waste amenity. It was like a purging of everything I had accumulated. Of course I kept my paintings and books, and some key items of furniture. But really, myself and my two children moved into my parents with a van load between us. It was a huge exercise in down sizing.

I now find myself in a situation where I am between homes, between countries. I have a room and a desk and books and my computer, but I hardly know where a lot of my ‘things’ are and I have no house to call my own. I have no rooms, living rooms, bedrooms, to fill up, to decorate to invest in. This is coming. It’s in the pipeline. Indeed, two houses may be in the pipeline. In two very different countries, but they will both be my home.

While I am looking forward to nesting again, and filling my homes with beautiful things, these past six months have been a huge lesson in letting go of attachment to ‘things’. I have felt displaced and at sea on occasion, even mildly panicked that I am not grounded and rooted in a particular dwelling. But each time I try to root down to my sense of belonging to the earth, the planet, the universe, rather than a specific house or country even. I felt a huge sense of liberation when I left my long term house six months ago, I felt freer than ever. And at times I still do. It may sound like a cliché  but the world is my home and it’s more to do with the sun and the sea and the particular light on a particular evening, and the people I love, than a house, than any ‘thing’.

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The Merging of the Human and the Divine


What I am learning right now is: Being human is divinity itself.

I used to think, being ‘spiritual’ meant constant meditation, abstinence, perfection almost. No anger, no bad moods, no indulgence.

Being spiritual meant healthy diet, being calm and peaceful all the time. Supreme kindness, serenity. Exercise, alkaline diet. Reading spiritual books and literature.

I still believe all those things. But I am more inclined to also believe, we are human! The goddess herself is sexy, voluptuous, she may drink too much wine on occasion, she may swear and argue. She knows how to apologise. She is not ego centric. She is simply being. Like me.

Doing my best to learn and grow and be the best that I can be, and most importantly continuing to love myself, even when I fall.

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Here’s to Life!


I write this today with the belief that the more honest I am, the more value I can bring to the world through what I share here.

Right now there is energy surging through my body. I’ve given up a very large weight that I’ve been carrying. It’s gone, just like that. Truly there are miracles in the world, and realisations like the one I’ve had today are among the greatest of those miracles. I feel blessed. I feel light. I feel alive.

I had, subconsciously, decided I deserved to carry a weight around forever, that is, the weight of hanging on in hope that a man would change his mind about me. If you refer to my previous blog, “Love and Truth”, some of you may have realised this. While I said I had moved on, my focus was still on being authentic around him, not just on being authentic. My focus was on how I could continue to love without attachment, but I was clearly still attached.

Today, all that changed when a simple thought crossed my mind.

I want whoever my life partner ends up being to be someone who is dazzled by me. Someone who sees through to my heart and lets me through to his. Someone who thinks about me often, calls just to check in, thinks up ways to adore me.  Of course! I deserve all this and more. There’s only one of me, and whoever pairs off with me will be a very lucky man indeed.

The point being, though – I don’t want someone I have to convince. I don’t want someone I have to wait years for, just so that he’ll “come around” and recognize me. Whether or not he would ever even be capable of that is irrelevant anyway. Being convinced and being dazzled are two very different things. I know which one I want, and I know which one I deserve.

Never justify loving someone else over loving yourself as if that’s the loving thing to do – it’s not. I’ll just love everyone, starting within myself. I’m not gonna keep a special place for anyone who doesn’t want a special place.Do you want a special place? Are you holding on? I know someone is going to read this who is stuck exactly where I was stuck for the year that ended this morning. Tap into your miracles. Do you want someone who is dazzled by you? Here’s a secret. The universe is dazzled by you. Ask, if you want.You’ll get the answer you’re looking for.

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The Child as Teacher


Recently I found myself in a situation where my son was accused of something. The accusers though it was pretty serious. Very serious. I was told that something very bad had happened and for an hour or so I wasn’t sure what it might be. Did he steal money? Was he caught doing drugs? This was the seriousness of the tone. I couldn’t imagine what it could be. I phoned my son and asked him if he knew what it might be and he said he had no idea. When I heard the details of what had supposedly occurred, I really felt  instantly that the whole thing had been blown out of all proportion. That it had been mis-perceived, that maybe there was a cultural difference in the way the incident had been viewed and that the incident was being handled with a gravity of which the action did not deserve.

You might say I flew off the handle. I went into full blown tigress protecting her cub. I was defensive, I was aggressive, I was angry, insulted and very very annoyed. Arguments ensued, disbelief, misunderstanding, accusation was met with counter accusation. I was wounded and angry.

My son returned home to be met with this accusation. The accuser and the accused began the conversation calmly, while I listened, quietly seething. My son was relaxed. he explained his point of view. He listened to the accuser. Very calmly, very openly, totally non-defensively, completely open-heartedly. He explained his actions. He defended himself to a certain degree but he also  said he could empathize with the accusers point of view. He apologized for any upset that had been caused by his actions. He admitted he had behaved in a way that was inappropriate and he accepted this and assured the accuser it would never happen again. While always maintaining his strength and integrity and general innocence.

As I listened from my place of anger and defensiveness and self-righteousness indignation, I was overcome with a humbling sense of amazement. My son was grace itself. Whereas I had succumbed instantly to outrage and anger.

He taught me a wonderful lesson in humility and grace in the face of a pretty serious sequence of events. He and the accuser left the conversation as comrades and friends. It took me a few more hours to get there myself.

photo by Ellen

photo by Ellen

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Humility


Humility is a sore spot. It’s used as a reason to stay quiet when you know you are longing to speak. It’s used as an excuse to throw a dark blanket over that bright light in your heart.

Tony Robbins says that our deepest fear is that we aren’t good enough, and that means we won’t be loved. Marianne Williamson, on the other hand, famously said that “our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, [it] is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” I believe both of these trail back to the same source. If we aren’t good enough, we won’ t be loved. If we are too good, once again, we won’t be loved.

Why is that?

Where did we learn that it is a virtue to silence our magnificence?

I believe self-censorship and self-oppression breed themselves. When I censor myself, when I oppress my identity and stifle my light, I teach everyone around me that they have to do the same. This is transmitted largely from parent to child – one of the worst injuries a parent could do their child is censor their own truth, put themselves down. And how many do that – thinking they are being loving, putting their own needs aside entirely to support their family?

Yet they are really teaching their children that it isn’t safe to be authentic.

The beauty of this dynamic, however, is that when you commit to end your own censorship and oppression of your heart, your truth, your thoughts and feelings, opinions and emotions, you give everyone else around you permission to do the same. Your commitment to your authenticity provides a space for my authenticity to come forward, and my authenticity in turn inspires others to bring themselves forward as well.

This magic is igniting the core of our current shift. People are tuning in to themselves.

So, overcoming this fear on every level is what will usher in a new era. Does that mean we shouldn’t be humble? Of course not.

I believe humility, as a concept, is misunderstood by the majority of society. It is defined by dictionary.com as the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank, etc. This means we acknowledge our own existence as not superior to anyone else’s. But to interpret that as an invitation or order to “cut yourself down to size” is not only a grave wound to yourself, it is also offensive to the rest of the human race.

The bottom line is – to be humble, you must acknowledge that you aren’t superior to those around you. In its core, this means we need to recognise the magnificence in everyone around us. It does not mean we need to stifle our own beauty.

Shine on, and the world will shine with you.