Humility is a sore spot. It’s used as a reason to stay quiet when you know you are longing to speak. It’s used as an excuse to throw a dark blanket over that bright light in your heart.
Tony Robbins says that our deepest fear is that we aren’t good enough, and that means we won’t be loved. Marianne Williamson, on the other hand, famously said that “our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, [it] is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” I believe both of these trail back to the same source. If we aren’t good enough, we won’ t be loved. If we are too good, once again, we won’t be loved.
Why is that?
Where did we learn that it is a virtue to silence our magnificence?
I believe self-censorship and self-oppression breed themselves. When I censor myself, when I oppress my identity and stifle my light, I teach everyone around me that they have to do the same. This is transmitted largely from parent to child – one of the worst injuries a parent could do their child is censor their own truth, put themselves down. And how many do that – thinking they are being loving, putting their own needs aside entirely to support their family?
Yet they are really teaching their children that it isn’t safe to be authentic.
The beauty of this dynamic, however, is that when you commit to end your own censorship and oppression of your heart, your truth, your thoughts and feelings, opinions and emotions, you give everyone else around you permission to do the same. Your commitment to your authenticity provides a space for my authenticity to come forward, and my authenticity in turn inspires others to bring themselves forward as well.
This magic is igniting the core of our current shift. People are tuning in to themselves.
So, overcoming this fear on every level is what will usher in a new era. Does that mean we shouldn’t be humble? Of course not.
I believe humility, as a concept, is misunderstood by the majority of society. It is defined by dictionary.com as the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank, etc. This means we acknowledge our own existence as not superior to anyone else’s. But to interpret that as an invitation or order to “cut yourself down to size” is not only a grave wound to yourself, it is also offensive to the rest of the human race.
The bottom line is – to be humble, you must acknowledge that you aren’t superior to those around you. In its core, this means we need to recognise the magnificence in everyone around us. It does not mean we need to stifle our own beauty.
Shine on, and the world will shine with you.