We’ve all been raised with: “you cannot value happiness without experiencing sadness; you cannot value light without being in darkness, same with beauty and ugliness…etc.”
My mind has been resisting this concept but life proved its righteousness. More value goes into life as we experience virtual deaths. Life in a way is defined by death and so as happiness sort of defined by sadness. A value is defined and valued more with its opposition. Battles needed to take place between masculinity and femininity until we finally got the message and saw the value in each and realized that the point is not to diminish one over the other. The point is acceptance, balancing and learning to live in harmony. Partnership is polarity in itself if we talk about men verses women or masculinity verses femininity.
We all come to life to live while most of us happen to fight to survive physical or spiritual deaths. Life is about harmonizing and balancing contradictions: our bodies and souls pull us in opposite directions and unless we maintain a balance, life may become a big mess. A balance for a person cannot be generalized. Balancing our lives is a challenging individual responsibility and mission. Then to step in the following challenge: balancing our lives with other people which I find unachievable if someone ignores or is not aware of his own personal balance. Personal balance is the key. When we live in balance, the rest of our lives fall in place.
One of Dr. Tarek Ali Hassan’s http://tarekalihassan.org/ (an Egyptian Philosopher and Musician) famous quotations is “Polarity does not decline unity”. Polarity can possibly embrace and harmonize with unity. This is actually our life mission!
That is why darkness, ugliness, violence…etc (that we cannot change and are inevitable parts of our lives) should be counted in our visions of life and appreciated, as much as light, beauty and peace. Pain is either a fuel to move on to a destination or a lesson in disguise as mentioned by Khalil Gibran:
“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its
heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder at the
daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem
less wondrous than your joy;
And you would accept the seasons of your heart,
even as you have always accepted the seasons that
pass over your fields.
And you would watch with serenity through the
winters of your grief.
Much of your pain is self-chosen.
It is the bitter potion by which the physician within
you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy
in silence and tranquility:
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by
the tender hand of the Unseen,
And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has
been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has
moistened with His own sacred tears.”
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I’m Neveen El-Gamal, an Egyptian 39 years old single mom. I’m a writer, a Reiki and an Emotrance practitioner. I have a published poetry book in Arabic in August 2010 titled “Freeing You from Me”.
I am very grateful to have met the lovely women in the sisterhood group and participate in The Daily Sisterhood.