I am learning that when I let go of any attachment to a particular outcome, even when the best laid plans are turned upside down by a series of unexpected changes, getting stressed about it doesn’t honour myself or those around me.
If I relax into the situation, let go and accept whatever outcome transpires, my day flows more smoothly. People around me may feel their own anxiety about what is happening, but my calmness can ease their stress by not adding to an already intense situation. Being okay with whatever happens also means I don’t feel disappointed when things don’t go as anticipated.
Being in a relationship with someone that lives an hour away from me and juggles a lot of different activities, friends and a daughter, means I need to be flexible. The more open I remain in any given situation, the better it is for both of us. I have my own stuff to juggle between family, work and different businesses and volunteer activities I am involved in, so this is becoming a healthy practise for me.
I used to feel the need to have a lot of structure in or control of my life. Even being partially self-employed I would attempt to create some structure and order in my life and work. I wanted things to be done a certain way and expected people around me to do their work the way I wanted it done. I would always justify my expectations by suggesting that it was to make other people’s lives easier, and because it was the right way of doing things. I would get frustrated when people wouldn’t live up to my expectations.
I still have some structure, but I am less attached to it. When I do administrative work on a daily basis, I never know what the next day is going to look like. I am okay with not knowing. I do my best to live in a space where I let go of expectations of others. I don’t carry as much negative energy as I used to. I can’t say my life is totally free of drama, but it is becoming less and less as I evolve. Letting go of expectations of others, allows me to honour them and myself. It allows for the best in each of us to flourish.
There is freedom in not having everything figured out. There is freedom in trusting that everything will work out in divine order and that I don’t need to have it all planned out or know all the answers.
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Leah Schroeder is a Reiki Practitioner www.lifeforcehealingservices.ca and Financial Advisor. “I was born and raised in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. For most of my 46 years this has been and currently is the place I call home. I have been working as a Financial Advisor for the past 15 years educating people about their finances, helping them restructure and reduce debt, invest for the future and properly protect their families. A strong sense that there is something more I am supposed to do in the world, a fascination with energy and a series of intuitive nudges has led me to begin practising Reiki. I have a desire to learn and practise other healing modalities, as well as serve children and empower young women around the world. I am grateful for the opportunity to share my thoughts and stories with you.”