It is possible to move through emotions like water: anger, resentment, fear, worry, anxiety, sadness – it is okay to experience all these emotions and sometimes we can feel them all in one day.
There was a time when I could spend ages stewing and ruminating, now sometimes, I can let the feeling go within minutes – sometimes it takes a walk or a sleep – but I do let it go.
A Course In Miracles, lesson 68 says: ‘Love holds no grievances.’
“search your mind for those against whom you hold what you regard as major grievances. Some of these will be quite easy to find. Then think of the seemingly minor grievances you hold against those you like and even think you love. It will quickly become apparent that there is no one against whom you do not cherish grievances of some sort.”
This lesson is a revelation in many ways. For example with my teenager – last night he said something at the start of a movie that I perceived as disrespectful. I told him off firmly – I could have, and in the past might have, held onto that grievance, against my own son, for the duration of the movie and stored it up as an grievance and proof that he is disrespectful. This was another moment of awakening for me. Imagine holding a grievance against your own child? But I have in the past.
This night I told him how I felt and moved through it instantly, we had the most lovely night together. I expressed myself and I let it go. Love holds no grievances.
It is an on-going process but with practice comes a velocity of movement through these feelings and a constant returning to love.
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Dr. Ellen Anne Burns is an actress, writer, mother, teacher, and student, not necessarily in that order. She was brought up in Belfast, Northern Ireland, where she has just completed her PhD in Applied Drama. She believes in a holistic spiritual practice, involving meditation, self love and discovery, learning and practicing forgiveness, gratitude and love every day. Ellen wishes to support and guide others on their own journey of self and love, especially with a view to romantic relationships. She is a mentor on Gabrielle Bernstein’s-HerFuture.com and is thrilled to be one of the founding members of The Daily Sisterhood Blog. If you wish to contact Ellen please message her here, and she will respond as soon as she can.