In a recent post I shared with you my own experience with valuing approval over authenticity. I wanted to share with you a bit of a blueprint for how to catch yourself out on this kind of destructive behavior and move away from it.
Many people have lost touch with their truth. If you want to move towards it, you have to start by working towards identifying it. One caveat – don’t wait until you’ve identified your entire truth before you start moving towards it. It is in moving toward it that you’ll keep identifying it, that you’ll allow it to surface, that you’ll be able to breathe through struggle and feel love, as regularly as you want to. That it will be the song you sing.
I firmly believe we all have a guiding voice in the back of our heads that is wiser than we are. Call it god, call it source, call it your intuition – it’ll take whatever name you give it, but it’s there, and it knows your truth better than you do. I sometimes call it my direct up-link to greater power. However, the ability to hear it needs to be tuned. If you can’t hear it, it’s probably there saving up all its influence for the day it has to shout out to you, “GET OFF THE HIGHWAY!” It is this voice that will guide you towards what you want to do with life.
The way to tune into it is very similar to the way toward authenticity. In my experience, the voice started showing up for me more, the more I followed its advice. Even little things – “go left” – but work is to the right, what if I’m late – “go left“. If you go right at this point, the voice will be weakened. If you go left, however, it gets a little bit louder. Tuning into this voice is a just a matter of doing what it says a bit more often. Then you go left and bump into an old friend, or happen to see an advertisement for a band who are looking for a singer, or… one time I turned a corner to see the sun hitting a hill and turning it bright emerald, and my guiding voice said – “I just wanted to show you that.”
Over time it will start to drag you out of your comfort zone. Eventually what you’ll find is that someone will say something which aligns with your image, but no longer aligns with your truth. Every moment like this is uncomfortable, sometimes to the point of terror. That’s when you have to take a deep breath and share your truth. These moments aren’t accidents – they are opportunities, put there in your pathway as the universe’s way of giving you a nudge, saying, “Hey, now’s your chance to move a little closer to your truth.”
Here is an invaluable tidbit Mastin Kipp shared in Love Uni-versity. When you have many voices in your head and you aren’t sure which one is your intuition/inner guide, then it’s the one that scares you the most. To elaborate, the other voices are voices of inertia, mostly taken from social pressure and safety-oriented guidance. Your intuition is the one that doesn’t care about certainty. It’s the one that pushes your boundaries, that quietly nudges you to quit your job and pursue a dream while the rest of your head is rapidly coming up with all kinds of excuses why you can’t. It is quiet but it is patient, and it will remain, telling you what to do, and scaring the living daylights out of you in the process.
Lastly, if a voice comes up accusing you of selfishness or greed if you try to follow your intuition, remember that following your intuition is the least selfish thing you can do, regardless of how it seems on the surface. As we stop performing – as we move into alignment with our authentic selves – we give everyone around us permission to do so as well. Is it more important to ensure your husband has a nice turkey dinner tonight, or is it more important for him to be able to feel your love from a place of truth and share that with you even if that means eating leftovers? If you feel like you have an image to maintain for a project or a community, consider this. I often find that when people I idolize come forward with their shadows and their confessions, I idolize them less, but I love them more. Wouldn’t you rather be loved than idolized anyway? It’s much more human, much more natural… what’s the word I’m thinking of? Oh yeah, authentic…
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Sadie Fulton is a 23-year-old with a massive vision for the world and a million different avenues she pursues to help get it there. She grew up traveling and has developed into a full-time activist, full-time lover of humanity, part-time musician, and she is now training to be a life coach. Above all, she wants to reach people and bring on a new era of love. If you want to share with her, get her perspective on something you are going through, or anything else at all, send her an email at sadie.fulton *at* gmail.com.